When we discuss postpartum depression or hear about it in the media, it is always in reference to a mother’s mood disorder. Because of this, when fathers have a hard time dealing with the challenges of becoming a father and become depressed, it is often undiagnosed and left untreated. All too often, new dads feel shame or don’t want to admit they are having difficulty adjusting to their new role. The sleepless nights and new dynamic of the family can be a lot to bear and adjusting may be difficult. After birth, many dads also become the sole wage earner, often adding another new stress and responsibility to the already challenging role of new father.
Many men struggle after the birth of a child resulting in Paternal Postnatal Depression (PPND). As many as 1 in 4 new dads may experience depression. PPND is a serious condition and left untreated could impact the father, child, and family greatly.
“Research consistently shows that a father’s postpartum depression has a negative and long-term impact on the psychological, social, and behavioral development of his children – especially boys.” (source)
Risk factors include:
- Personal history of depression
- Relationship stress – with a partner or with in-laws
- Excessive stress about becoming a parent or father
- A sick or colicky baby
- A lack of support from others
- Economic problems or limited resources
Symptoms of men’s depression include:
- Increased anger and conflict with others
- Increased use of alcohol or other drugs
- Frustration or irritability
- Violent behavior
- Losing weight without trying
- Isolation from family and friends
- Being easily stressed
- Impulsiveness and taking risks, like reckless driving and extramarital sex
- Feeling discouraged
- Increases in complaints about physical problems
- Ongoing physical symptoms, like headaches, digestion problems or pain
- Problems with concentration and motivation
- Loss of interest in work, hobbies and sex
- Working constantly
- Frustration or irritability
- Misuse of prescription medication
- Increased concerns about productivity and functioning at school or work
- Fatigue
- Experiencing conflict between how you think you should be as a man and how you actually are
- Thoughts of suicide
If you or your partner are experiencing any symptoms of postpartum or paternal postnatal depression, please seek help. For support visit, Postpartum Support International or Postpartum Men
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